I have had limited experience with snow, which means that a few specific memory pop into mind when I’m exposed to it. Thanksgiving in Cincinnati, when I went sledding with my cousin and joined forces with her against my uncle in a vicious snowball fight. He slaughtered us with his experience. While we lobbed soft, crumbling snowballs at him, he would let his melt a little in the sun before bringing them back to the shade to harden; they felt like rocks. Christmas in Wisconsin visiting my stepmother’s family; the morning race for the best sled, eyes blurred and fingers stiff with cold as I tried to dress myself. Winter in Hakuba with my friends, walking down dimly lit streets in search of open restaurants, slipping with every step on the icy streets and clinging to my friends to stay upright.
I don’t really know how to dress myself for winter. Winter in Wisconsin featured articles of clothing I’d never heard of and have never seen in stores: thermal long-johns and thick padded overalls my stepmother called “bibs.” Scarves and hats and gloves have always interested me as accessories, but winter in Florida is so mild and changeable that such things inevitably resulted in being too warm. I can never remember to put on a hat, or wrap a scarf around my neck when I’m leaving the house; it’s all I can remember to put on a jacket over my hoodie, the only article of clothing required for winter in Florida.
But I’ve been watching what others wear. J-ko seldom leaves the house without a warm hat and his coat. Women walk with their faces obscured by thick scarves. Coats are always buttoned or zipped, not flapping in the wind the way I’m accustomed to wearing mine for fear of overheating.
When I saw the snow outside, I planned more carefully. I debated finding my double lined trench coat, but it’s buried in my largest suitcase behind my temporary closet, and I decided I’d be warm enough without it. Long-sleeved shirt, knit vest, hoodie, jacket, extra-long borrowed scarf wrapped twice around my face and once around my neck with 6 inches dangling free on either side, knit hat, and boots; I was as warm as my wardrobe allowed.
The snow fell gently as I left, dusting my scarf and hat. I could still feel the solidity of the road under my feet, the snow mostly destroyed by the passage of cars. Snow clung to the trees and just barely covered the grass, only a few hardy blades poking through. A tiny patch of snow attached itself to the pointed tip of my boot with each step until I tapped it against the pavement to dislodge it. While I waited for the bus, I set slow, deliberate footsteps in the snow, digging my heels into the thin hard-pressed snow on the sidewalk.
After my errands, the snow picked up, slicing diagonal white lines across my vision as it fell. It invaded my eyes behind my glasses, which fogged with my every breath. The snow had piled by then, my foot disappearing with a soft crunch with every step. At one point, I missed the edge of the pavement and stumbled into deeper snow in the buried grassy area along the road. Snow imbedded itself in the fabric of my pants. The wind howled over the blaring of my headphones, making me turn thinking it was an approaching car.
I’d done an admirable job dressing myself; although I longed for gloves — which I do not currently possess — and the thinness of my pants, I succeeded in keeping myself warm. I peered through my fogged glasses and admired the delicious wintery scene. The houses strung with Christmas lights looked especially charming against the blankets of snow on their front yards.
But passing the last street lamp before the dead end leading to the house, on the steep hill leading to the pitch black stretch of pine-lined road, I slipped, falling flat on my ass, my bare hands buried in the snow. I tried to stand and slipped again, sliding several feet down the hill on my butt. I pulled my hands from the snow, brushing them clean only to find them burning and numb. In the dark of that last few yards to the house, with my burning hands shoved in my pockets where melted snow pooled, I no longer found the snow charming. Nor was the crunch beneath my feet now that I feared the lack of traction on my boots. My feet felt frozen, and I resented the clumps of snow clinging to my shoes.
As a child, I always loved the idea of winter. I longed for the soft blankets of pristine white snow to herald the coming holidays. I imagined daily snowball fights and sledding and snowmen with charcoal eyes and carrot noses. Snow days! Glorious school-free days to build elaborate snow forts from which to wage imaginary wars, days that ended in hot chocolate and marshmallows. My parents tried to convince me otherwise, telling me tales of shoveling snow and the horrors of driving in snow, but I wasn’t convinced.
The mild winters of Japan — with its occasional light snow fall and 30+ degree weather already convinced me that winter wasn’t for me. In Saijo, riding my bicycle with snow flying into my eyes, or biking to class — flying downhill with the cold wind blasting in my face, dreary endless gray days, I just wanted to hibernate. In Tsukuba, with our rented traditional house with one window unit that heated a single room, the bedrooms icy in spite of the halogen space heater and thick comforters and blankets, I came to despise the season.
J-ko told me, when I was first thinking of moving here, that Seattle’s winters were mild. I had understood from what he told me that Seattle winters were not unlike Florida winters. Last night, as we scurried through the cold to his car, clutching our jackets around ourselves and shivering, I accused him of lying. “You said that Seattle winters weren’t cold!” I shouted at him as we reached the car. “I said they weren’t that cold,” he answered. He reminded me that in the midwest, the temperature often dropped below freezing, a level of cold I cannot even fathom.
I’ve forgiven him for his deceit, more or less, but I’m aware that it’s only November; what exactly will the real winter bring?